Mommy Rant

My Mommy Rant

“Oh he is so adorable”

“Oh he is so cute”

“Oh he is so tiny”

“Oh my, how old is he? What, no way. He can’t be five? Are you kidding me?”

“He doesn’t go to this school does he? What?! He can’t be in Grade Primary? Are you serious? I mean he is just so cute!”

“I can’t believe that you are that little out there on the ice playing hockey!”

These are just a few of the quotes my son and I hear everyday. Although I love to hear how cute and adorable he is (because he really is!), it has grown quite tiresome over the years. Especially because the comments are usually preceded or followed up by “he is sooo tiny!”. Although I am confident the majority of people mean well when they express their feelings about his size, sometimes I feel like biting their heads off. Logan has a very fierce stare he gives anybody who mentions he is cute or tiny. He told me the other night he hates going around all the girls because they always say he is so “adorable”. I guess, at the age of 5, it is already too cool to be adorable.

Perhaps I just wish people could come up with a better way of presenting their feelings. Like the other day when the woman walked onto the school grounds and announced to all those around her and beyond, “Fort Sackville? He goes to Fort Sackville? Are you kidding?” Logan slowly crept behind me and said he wanted to go home. But oh no this wasn’t enough of a hint to get her to shut her mouth, she kept going on and on. In fact there was a teacher in the proximity and she went over to her to confirm with her that Logan was indeed a student at the school. She must have seen the glare in my eyes as she came back over to me and said “I mean he is just so cute”. I responded by saying “he doesn’t like being called cute”. We turned and walked away and I once again began my speech to Logan that being called cute is a compliment.

Having been through numerous invasive tests to confirm that Logan is in fact just small, and he doesn’t have anything medically wrong, has made me even angrier when people comment on his size. I often ask myself what if there was something medically wrong that caused him to be small? How would that make us feel?

As I write this I am feeling much better about the whole situation and have decided to try to put myself in other people’s shoes. If I saw Logan entering the hockey rink, soccer field, or school ground I would probably join everyone else and say “Oh my gosh he is just so cute!”

I will always remember the neonatologist at the IWK coming in to see us after Logan was born and saying “Well, you can’t expect elephants from mice!” I guess he thinks my husband and I are small too. He didn’t make any mention of us being cute though….